If I see one more fucking article or blog post about how Mindy Kaling is “up and coming,” I’m going to lose my fucking mind.
SHE HAS HER OWN SHOW. IT’S CALLED “THE MINDY [F’ING] PROJECT.” SHE’S MADE IT. SHUT UP. SHUT UP. SHE IS AS SUCCESSFUL AS ANY MAN COULD HOPE TO BE.
I mean, she has her own show… Right?
Also, she’s been a head writer and a cast member for The Office for almost 10 years. They hired her at 24. She’s established.
Oh, and she wrote a bestseller. BEST SELLER.
When dudes get their own shows, do we call them “new” or “up and coming?” NO. Now, they’re just famous, rich, and successful. Mindy Kaling is famous, rich, and successful. We need to accept that women can be successful, not just nearly successful, not just almost successful. Women don’t get the same credit. They have to prove themselves over and over again. Men, however, only have to prove themselves once – maybe twice.
I mean, really, are we waiting for her to get rid of her boobs and become John Hamm? By the way, John Hamm is not an up-and-comer, and he doesn’t even have his own show, and his show is on cable. (I think it’s very good, but you get my point here.)
When Louis C.K. got his own show, people weren’t sitting around saying: “Wow. He’s almost comparable to other successful comedians. We should watch him to see if he gets more successful. What a nice young man.”
Tina Fey, Amy Poehler, and Martha Stewart aren’t the only successful women in the world. Many, many women have “made it.” They didn’t “make it” with an asterisk, or any ifs, ands, or buts – they just fucking MADE IT.
When Hilary Clinton wins the 2016 election, are we going to sit around and talk about her like she’s ALMOST there, almost made it. Having a vagina doesn’t make your success any more or any less temporary. What else do people think will happen? Having boobies shouldn’t mean you have to wait to get credit from all the dudes who like touching boobies – who, by the way, are probably way too intimidated by the success of those boobies to feel good about touching them.
It is harder for women to make it in Hollywood as writers. It is harder for women to make it in politics, business, engineering, and many other fields. That does not, however, take away the power, the position, or the accomplishments of these women. It does not make their successes more vulnerable or their power less permanent. We should be, and perhaps are, even more impressed with their triumphant success over rooms filled with dicks and dick jokes. Ladies have to work a little harder. Ladies have to prove themselves continuously. Ladies have to show that they can be strong without being bitches, and that they can be sexy without being stupid or desperate. Men can be gross or fat or assholes or hardasses or softies or whatever with so much more ease. I know that some men will take offense to this – they should. It’s awful that this is still true in so many offices and writers’ rooms, etc. Change it. If you are a man and you don’t like this point of view, challenge it. Think about the women in your field, the women in your TV. How many are there? What are their positions? What are your opinions of them? How do the men around you talk about them? If it’s sexist or unfair, speak up about it. If it’s not, then YAY! I’m wrong and happy to be.
My point is that women’s success seems to be compartmentalized into “women’s success” instead of just success. Mindy Kaling isn’t “one to watch out for.” She is literally someone you can currently watch on TV– on her show — which she created — which she writes — in which she stars.
She deserves a little more faith from the media. She’s a pretty big deal. Deal with it.