It took me a long time to realize that the world needs boring people too, even while the world parties. It really is the case. If there were only excitable, excited, loud-mouthed, dancing party animals, this world would collapse. “Boring people” as I used to call them are the responsible ones at parties. They are actually just quiet people. Sometimes, even the loud-mouths take a night off to observe, or just read. Quiet people are important. They read the room. They see all the drunkies being drunkies and can preemptively give out water and bread. They are party-medics. I want to make sure we’re protecting and supporting these sweet, quiet people.
I didn’t used to understand the quiet people at parties, though I was occasionally one of them. I used to be annoyed by the hushed folks in corners, those drinking water and forcing it on others, and those who would shy away from vulgar dancing during beer pong, but they’re great. They’ll bust a move if the song is good enough. They’ll bring you water. They’ll bring you blankets when the night is over. They might even drive you home. Don’t hate on the quiet people.
That said, party poopers are jerks. If you don’t want to drink, cool beans. If you don’t feel like dancing, also fine. If you want to drink water, you are a smart person. However, if you are going to a drinking party, don’t judge the people around you for drinking. The party is focused around drinking, everyone is playing a drinking game. You’re not above it. You’re at the party, so don’t be all weird about parties.
Not all quiet people are boring. Not all quiet people are party poopers. I just hope our drunk selves can remember that and protect the innocent sober people who would rather be reading, but are sacrificing their Saturdays to take care of their friends.
Thank your DD again, and maybe buy them a taco.