Watching “Chubby/Curvy Chick” Porn Does Not Make You Progressive

As a self-proclaimed “curvy” girl, I am all for the praising and appreciation of curvaceous bodies.  For the record, “curvy” is referring to bodies Christina Hendricks, Beyonce, the current Christina Aguilara, Jessica Simpson, and most of the Kardashians, this term does not and should not apply to random, tiny celebrities who claim to be curvy because they weigh more than 105 lbs.

Having a B-Cup isn’t enough, ladies!  Having a big ass is sufficient.  Having annoyingly large breasts will also do the trick.  Though, you are probably going to have to weigh a little more… you know, like 125 lbs.

I think there are a lot of great websites that can help curvier girls feel better about themselves, and I think having sites like that is wonderful.

Sites like SkinnyVsCurvy are doing it the right way.  Sure, it’s gossipy and not entirely nice, but at least they give due credit to the curvy ladies who look a heck of a lot better than some of the Lexy Anorexies out there.  Being too skinny is unhealthy.  Being too fat is also unhealthy.  Let’s celebrate the healthy range in a healthy way.

Celebrating healthy bodies in a healthy way probably doesn’t mean watching porn.

Porn is demeaning to all parties involved.  Porn is a major industry.  I know that tons of people love porn, rely on it, and are overall BIG fans.  However, being a lover of porn does not make you an academic; that’s not enough.  I know that most porn features women with bodies that have been perfected and sculpted by work out routines and plastic surgeons to create unrealistic, or at least rare, results.  Just like Hollywood, porn emphasizes a very particular kind of body as idealized, and it’s a kind of body that most women cannot achieve.  Most of porn is detrimental to the female image because its “activity and subject matter” depict women as objects, nothing more than desperate, helpless, sex-crazed weirdos; it also doesn’t help that the women look like barbies.

Of course, there are more fetishes and niches out there than imaginable, which means there is also a lot of porn portraying ultra-skinny ladies, ultra-fat chicks, any race, any place, involving any imaginable thing.  Heck, pick any noun, adjective, adverb, verb… It’s in a porn-o.

That said, there is a lot, like A LOT, of chubby bunny/curvy/chubby/not-so-skinny/something called “BBW” (google at your own risk) stuff out there.  This wouldn’t normally come on my radar, but earlier a random dude yelled at me while I was running – I’m not entirely sure I caught everything he said, but he definitely referred me to a specific site.  The weirdest part of this is that he wasn’t really saying that he liked my “situation,” he was mostly pointing out that he was proud of me for being confident in my body.  WHAT?  First of all, pick a new medium.  The cat-call isn’t right for you.  Second, no.  NO.

There are a bunch of sites out there that post naked pictures of “curvy” and/or “chubby” chicks to “empower them,” and to “make them feel more beautiful.”  

How the hell is a bunch of porn going to be “empowering” for me?  Screw that bullshit!  These sites are just fetishist porn sites that are claiming to be some kind of grandiose feminism.  That’s not how it works.  Feminism does not mean you show people your vagina.  Feminism is more about being powerful, smart, and capable regardless of your genital-situation.  Curvy chicks are not being helped by exploitative sites that praise giant boobs, round tummies, and bubble butts; curvy chicks are being helped by fashion that encourages their bodies to be seen as beautiful and normal.  No woman was ever helped to feel beautiful (in a healthy way) by a bunch of half-dressed, poorly lit strangers clicking on pictures of her vagina in the middle of the night.

Glorified porn sites won’t solve eating disorders.  They will only alleviate the pressure in the pants of certain dudes (and chicks).

*At press, this writer was not considering herself especially skinny, or especially chubby.  She also has yet to visit the site recommended by that empowering drunk guy.

5 thoughts on “Watching “Chubby/Curvy Chick” Porn Does Not Make You Progressive

  1. I totally agree with you on your views on porn and how it’s the opposite of empowerment. I also think it applies to associated industries like strip tease/exotic dancers/burlesque, glamour modeling, over sexualised advertising, raunchy clothing for kids etc.

    I don’t agree on the definition of curvy that has made it’s way into fashion as a new buzz word for marketing though and it’s hitting Europe now as well. It’s very confusing hearing the word curvy as interchangeable with chubby/overweight/plus size and apparently thinner or petite women can’t be plus size. Women with B-cups can most certainly be curvy, it depends on their height. Women who are slender can be curvy because curvy refers to the bust-waist-hips ratio and can apply to all women of all shapes and sizes. There’s a difference between curves and rolls of fat, and curves and being so skinny that the bones show through and calling that more defined curves. The fashion industry has caught onto the word that is more attractive for marketing than ‘plus size’ like how petite sounds better than ‘short’ though, along with the mis-use of ‘curvy’, ‘petite’ is also now being mis-used and making its way to Europe too, to imply slenderness rather than height. Soon it’ll be hard to describe body shapes clearly without being verbose, as illustrated in my reply.

    Health as well is not totally down to size, though on average for most people it’s a good indicator especially since modern diets are so bad and we eat far more than we actually need ignoring the point that it takes approx 30% of the body’s energy to digest and that so many people have digestion problems. The type of fitness regime a person undertakes as well their diet will greatly impact the body shape too, different sports/exercise will have different effects shaping the body differently and the amount of food/drink consumed as well as the quality can make body shape a less reliable indicator as to health. A skinny yoga practioner will be much healthier than a mid sized once-three times a week 40min-1hour a time gym user for example, and someone wanting to bulk up can eat more if weight training but be less healthy despite appearances because its harder to maintain and adds unnatural strain to the muscles and bones focusing on certain areas and combinations rather than everything. Then you get all those people whose body shapes dramatically change when losing or gaining weight, normally the body shape should stay the same but the size will change but again due to the deteriorated quality of the modern diet and all the effects or chemical producing and farming the body shape can change too, and much can be hidden behind digestive problems such as bloating and water retention.

    Basically I’m saying that the use of labels like ‘curvy’, ‘petite’, ‘healthy’ etc are being used in a marketing/advertising war to make people feel better about themselves by increasing feelings of superiority over another group – ‘mine is better than yours = I’m better than you’ – all these labels are used as jibes to others. Everytime someone says ‘I’m curvy’ it’s like saying ‘and you’re not’ or to those that don’t apply and because of the mis-use of the terms those that don’t apply are increasing when actually, with proper use they do apply. Those that apparantly don’t apply then get pissed and further focus on ‘their group’ and what was supposed to be more inclusive and cohesive turns into more competitive and revenues go up because of even more determined competing publicity to different groups. Language is a very powerful tool and is cleverly used in every industry including fashion. Plus size, short and tall were very definitely not catered for very well or at all for a long time and it’s getting better but it’s doing so by increasing the ‘bitch’ and ‘jealousy’ factor, people always want what they don’t have and strive to fit into popular trends. Including the less catered for but ever increasing target groups could easily have been done but then many in the industry would say without the competitive, advantage wanting edge fashion wouldn’t progress so quickly or far, people wouldn’t focus so much on it if it didn’t give us emotional/mental tools/triggers to make us want and feel more for the topic. That’s true but I personally don’t see the need for it other than greed and trying to satiate emotional/physical issues in people that they helped to create in the first place by promoting certain looks as desirable and then promoting others in controversial ways (like stripping as empowering), creating a demand and supply for it and trying to justify it with things like it’s good exercise/better for your health/emotional well being/love/accept yourself more etc. The advertising ‘geniuses’ that came up with that are real parasites imo.

    • You make some really great points here! I think I was a little unclear about the “B-Cup” thing; I mainly said that because I’m annoyed by actresses who are so SO so skinny, but claim to be “curvy” instead of “skinny” simply because they have more than an A-Cup. I was not trying to attack B-Cups! Thank you for such a well-thought comment!

      • No problem, I have a habit of leaving long replies to excellent posts lol and I love your site, you’ve got lots of great posts.

        I totally see where you’re coming from with media personalities claiming to be something or another and obviously it’s not true. Again it’s trying to fit into something popular, being associated with popularity can in turn increase their own popularity and is an underlying reason in their constant re-inventions to stay current. I’ve also noticed how many actresses and singers get thinner the more popular they become, even those with definitely curvy bodies like Beyonce, whose enough weight to be skinny in the last couple of years but because she has a curvy figure she still looks curvy and it hides the weight loss – but it can’t be hidden from her face. Her face has gotten really quite thin and her thighs are obviously less shapely and more straight. Losing weight and the face becoming more defined can happen with age, between 24-30 quite commonly but even with her pregnancy, it’s apparent that she’s only really putting on weight in the breasts and tummy (which according to superstition usually means it’s a boy, not always but usually).

        On a sidenote – another gripe I have is how only recently breast feeding is being marketed as acceptable and was taboo before because it’s less profitable for baby milk/foods and healthier for mother and child. Only now can they can afford to market it as better because the mother’s diet is usually so badly saturated with sub-par nutrition and chemical overload that the baby will still require shop bought specialty foods and medicine. My associated gripe with that is how so many celebs choose not to breastfeed in preference of keeping their newfound cleavage, rather than because they may not have been comfortable with breastfeeding which is understandable as it’s not always easy or painless. Celeb ‘trendy mothers’ are increasing, ever since Jane Seymour openly advertised that she worked out after having twins and got her pre-pregnancy figure back, effectively shaking off the shackles of ‘losing your figure’/never getting back to original size, it was for the longest time accepted that most women would at least permanently go up a dress size or two after successful pregnancy. Since then tons of celebs relentlessly and quickly lose weight and get their figures back (good for them though they don’t need to do it so quickly/unhealthily) and yet noticeably have bigger boobs afterwards. To think that these women would rather have bigger breasts than feed the babies with the milk that was produced for them making the boobs bigger in the first place, is more than sad. It always surprises me as well that these women have well paid doctors/health practitioners who then will all those wages don’t tell their patients/clients not to colour their hair whilst pregnant either. Then because the images and actions of these people are bombarded on the rest of us, the behaviour filters through and education of better practice is lost unless constantly reinforced with every generation, but with every generation popular trends will have their sway, both good and bad but ultimately we always renegate back to bad practice like female empowerment now meaning instead of being forced to take our clothes off (or put too much on in some places), we take too much off to liberated and confident, whilst the those who did the forcing still get the benefit. One extreme to another, one step forwards, two steps back. This behaviour has barely changed throughout history.

        The pressure on women to be attractive, the amount of focus on it and the pursuit of attractiveness has always been crazy and ultimately detrimental.

        Anyway – sorry for taking up so much of your space!

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